Thursday, December 25, 2008

Salem takes it too seriously.

The Good Wife's Guide

Post by Jessica Monson:

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with alot of work-weary people.Be a little more gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc and then run a dustcloth over the tables.Over the cooler monthes of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all niose. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.Be happy to see him.Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first- remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.Dont greet him with complaints or problems.Don't complain if he is home late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgement or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house ans as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.A GOOD WIFE ALWAYS KNOWS HER PLACE

My reaction:

Just wondering: We guys are not infaliable and are often bullish brutes. If this were not so, then we might as well assume that being a man alone is enough to carry authority and righteousness. Many a time we become stubborn and thick-headed and we guys rarely think things out with full consideration on proper circumspection (even if that is what we should be doing)! Many a good woman and wife have the right to NOT gratiate their husband when ever the man insists on something his way. When they are not doing or requesting something right and which would drive away the Spirit or do harm or damage in any way- questioning him or refusing him is not a sin unto God-- for God would only have you do right and good continually. If a guy can have any success in helping you be and do any more good, it will only be in that he helps and ecourages you to gain and walk in the spirit and commandments of God- which you all know very well. Men can not set God's perameters and Laws- but he can help identify them, teach them, and be an example in them and bid others follow. You women in many ways can do the same! A man isn't rigteous to task you half to death in bending over backward to serve his every whim. I think it is wonderful that you women would have such a willing heart to serve, love,care and be at peace with him, and that is truely wonderful. I just know that there are crooked guys out there too that could take such a wonderful person like this- and grind them into the dust. Watchout by keeping yourselfs true to the will of God and not to lean upon the arm of flesh and of men! You girls have heads that sit on top of your own shoulers and were given to you of God!

1 comment:

Bonnie said...

If both husband and wife offer this respect to each other, you can have a winning team!